Know Thyself; on running your race and taking dodgy personality tests 

We decided to walk the length of Portstewart Strand and found that with each step, the beach bustle became quieter – as we passed the Windbreaker-in-any-Weather families, the enthusiastic games of “beach volleyball” (quotation marks intended), the romantic wanderers and the new puppies, the sand looked more vast and more ‘ours’. We got to theContinue reading “Know Thyself; on running your race and taking dodgy personality tests “

#IWD2017: boldness and bananas

The lump in my throat came when she took out the photos of her wedding day as we sat in the very house the newlyweds had moved into together. She was wearing a silky sleeveless number that looked like it was made only for her: he was also wearing white. Her fingers slowly flicked throughContinue reading “#IWD2017: boldness and bananas”

About the time I got glasses.

I got glasses last week, and then I cried. Don’t worry: there were no tears on the brightly-lit shop floor populated by sparkly frames and chatty salespeople. Can we just pause for a minute to marvel at the art of telling a customer, in the same breath, that the pair of glasses they have triedContinue reading “About the time I got glasses.”

Burritos & pebbles: some thoughts on friendship.

It was our usual burrito date night: we’ve been having them for years. Emma has been one of my best friends since she moved to Belfast for university and since then, we’ve shared many Mexican meals together. Ours is a holy appointment: burritos with the freshest of fresh cilantro, each bend of the wrapping somehow mirroring ourContinue reading “Burritos & pebbles: some thoughts on friendship.”

New year, new goals? 

I’ve been setting some goals for the year over the last few days: arranging them in categories that work for me, like ‘spiritual’ and ‘physical’ and ‘books I’d like to read’. I’m a goal-driven kind of person: I love dreaming big dreams just as much as I enjoy planning the steps I need to take toContinue reading “New year, new goals? “

Rebellions are built on hope. 

I find myself sitting in the dark, my mind spinning almost as fast as the pictures on the screen. Christmas parties and Santa hats, beautiful carols and rolls of ribbon interlaced with the sound of grandmothers wailing, last goodbyes, emergency appeals and photos of frozen children too shocking for publication. This week we launched anContinue reading “Rebellions are built on hope. “

Welcome

Welcome to those who were treated as invisible, or problematic, or too much, or not enough. Welcome to those who were told they couldn’t, and to those who were asked to leave. Welcome to those who were told not to show weakness, and to the boys who dared to cry. Welcome to those who hadContinue reading “Welcome”

Exploring Iceland – November 2016

“The problem with driving around Iceland is that you’re confronted by a soul-enriching, breath-taking, life-affirming natural sight every five minutes.” Stephen Markey  I’d never thought of going to Iceland – or, to be honest, known much about it – until I met my husband, Dan. Iceland was at the top of his wanderlist, and heContinue reading “Exploring Iceland – November 2016”

6 things I wish I could say to my friends who have kids

This post was originally written for Threads. We met one night at an after-party while at University in Belfast. I loved her sparkly green shoes and she was impressed by my maxi dress. We struck up a friendship that has seen us through graduation, living together in a tiny terraced house brought to life by many fairyContinue reading “6 things I wish I could say to my friends who have kids”