One of my heroes, who I also get to call ‘friend’ and ‘cousin’, is running a series on her blog around the word BODY. She asked me what I thought of guest-posting and immediately I felt a little weird: I knew this was going to be a tough one as there wasn’t anything to hide behind (I was also slightly terrified of writing in a series Anne-Freaking-Lamott had contributed to!!!) But after years of lesson-learning, I feel like I’m finally ready to share a little bit of my story.
The voices that increased in decibels as I increased in calendar years told me what I looked like mattered most. In film, print, image, in sexism, unhealthy narratives and well-meaning Agony Aunts. I listened, and took note.
The perception of my body was what I was. “Beauty is the eye of the beholder”? The beheld is, also. Stuck there, sometimes. I was in my body, but the ‘me’ inside wasn’t as visible as her shell…and if my shell was what other people said I was, then they could have it.
I ignored my body. Tired, sick, hungry, full, frustrated were the labels my shell was crying out, while I just got on with business in my mind and my heart and my soul.
I danced with this detachment for a decade. Experimenting with my body, using food to appease it, using food to punish it, pushing it too far, comforting it for a season, burning it out.
My body is not me. I’m more than my body. It isn’t important.
The decade of this dualistic detachment draws to an end.
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