If porn, then what?

CHILDREN

Children are now exposed to soft pornography in their day-to-day lives, and are at risk of coming across pornographic content through lack of media literacy and parental relationship as well as the sheer prominence of pornographic content in different spheres. What will we do to ensure that children are not exposed to images too graphic for their developing brains to process, and which cause a higher likelihood of addiction?

What about what porn directly or indirectly – through its infiltration into culture – teaches children about themselves and sex? Are we happy enough to let them send nude photos of themselves to each other? Are we ok with a girl giving her first blow job before she even needs a bra? Are we ok with boys feeling they are too small when actually, they’ve hardly hit puberty?

WOMEN

50 Shades of Grey brought with it the concept of ‘mummy porn’, which was both interesting and ridiculous. Women do not limit themselves to erotic words – women buy/watch porn as well. There is more stigma around this, however, so we are less likely to hear about it. Women seem to embrace 50 Shades-esque literature and ‘female friendly’ scenes because these things allow them to be sexual for their own benefit, as opposed to for the benefit of their sexual partners. How can we allow women to be sexual beings without allowing our best-sellers to be horrifically written books about sexually abusive relationships?

Also, though: porn addiction is not a ‘boys only’ problem. Women find themselves addicted to porn as well, and the reasons for this may differ from those of men in the same position. Thus, helping them might look different to helping men. Where are the resources for this?

Finally, women continue to be portrayed as objects in the porn industry; there for men’s pleasure and control. What impact does this have on our relationships and how we operate as a society?

MEN

Through porn, which plays on stereotypes like they’re going out of fashion, men have a very set example of what they must be, in and out of the bedroom. Is that OK? Or do they deserve better?

Men are also told that porn is a man’s ‘guilty little pleasure’, a rite of passage into manhood that is perpetualised. Is that really all they are capable of?

THE VIEWER

Not all porn consumers are addicted to porn. What about those who are, though? Do we treat addiction to porn as we do addiction to substance? Is it helpful that the anti-porn movement seems to be one largely that does little research and, other than (thankfully) including some very brave academics, buries its head in Christianese, semi-inappropriate-to-be-cool slogans?

SEX

The society we live in has been ‘pornified’. That is unescapable. We need to wake up to this, though, and consider what the implications are. Are we happy for the porn industry to dictate how we see our bodies? How we treat each other? How we have sex? What is ‘sexy’?

THE PORN INDUSTRY

The boundaries are blurred when it comes to deciphering whether someone who appears in a pornographic scene is there of their own accord or not. The porn industry must be better regulated in order to protect those who are coerced into its arms, as well as to keep safe those (however few they are) who choose pornography as a career. Precautions for sexual health, full consent and professional conduct should be the bare minimum in terms of standards in porn production.

With the rise of ‘amateur porn’, the ability to regulate the industry is becoming more difficult – but the rise of something in which so many could be exploited means that this is not good enough a reason not to.

THE SEX TRADE

Porn teaches us to buy sex. In that sense, it acts as an appetiser for the commercial sex trade. Do we want this thought continuum? Are sex and humans simply commodities?

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